So many questions left unanswered.
Who am I?
What’s my purpose?
How could you do this to me?
These are some of the thoughts I had while going through emotional abuse but had not even the slightest clue what it was while I was going through it. Three years prior to meeting him, I was involved in a relationship where I was being physically abused and eventually suffered a shot gun blast to my right hand, suffering me to have a partial hand amputation. I knew I have been abused physically before, and struggled with now having a disability and the desire to be loved. However, I had no clue my next relationship would turn out to be abusive until after it was over.
The same man who appeared to be so loving towards me, stated he wanted a family, would be the same man who would father our child, yet toy with my emotions, even to the point of blaming me for being the reason I now had a disability. The whole time I thought our relationship issues were because of my disability, I started to see that I wasn’t the one who couldn’t be loved, my disability was never the cause for concern, nor was I lacking in any other area that any other woman did not possess.
If you are in or suspect another person of being abused never be afraid to speak out and reach out for help. Some signs of emotional abuse are but not limited to:
Breaking the abusive cycle starts with you. Know that you are not only worthy of love, but you deserve it also.
If you or someone is experiencing abuse, please call the National Domestic Violence
Hotline at 1-800-799-7233/TTY 1-800-787-3224, Deaf Dawn firstname.lastname@example.org and
Abused Deaf Womens Advocacy Services
Also you can review website listing at https://ncadv.org
By Larissa Camp
WELCOME TO OUR BLOG for Black and Brown women with physical disabilities who have a voice in reshaping how disability images of Black and Brown women with physical disabilities are defined and portrayed. If you are a Black or Brown woman living with a physical disability and want to see yourself reflected as powerful and beautiful in the world around you and want your voice to be heard, then this Blog is for you!
DWD looks forward to you joining us on our journey as we uncover topics ranging
from politics to policy, to asking hard questions like why are Black women with disabilities
underrepresented in film, TV, adverting? We also get down to the nitty-gritty taking on hot
topics such as sex, dating, living while LGBTQ and disabled, and much, much more.
We hope you join us in this new adventure of learning, growing and living Black while
Diva—an empowered woman living with a disability. Check out our Archives.
As a disabled black woman, I know how hard it is to find your voice and know how it feels to have your feelings validated. I guess at 60+ years I can find new voices that can inspire me. But I have been hard pressed for validation…until now.
The Divas With Disabilities Project or DWD is bringing together women from all walks of life, to strengthen our voices.
DWD seeks to empower Black and Brown women and girls with physical disabilities by validating our images and amplifying our voices through various mass media platforms.
Even more, DWD aims to encourage us-Black and Brown women with physical disabilities- to find our voices and live out loud, unapologetically.
This is our first launch into the blogging world. It is our sincere hope that we are able to create a space for all divas with disabilities to come and feel free to be you.
We live in a world of competing ideas. One idea can be in fashion one day, and out of fashion by nightfall. I know to be black, female and disabled that my voice is rarely heard.
Few will argue about the role mass media plays in shaping our culture. So, this is why it is troublesome for us, when we are excluded from images that represent who we are.
Sadly, our voices are muted due to backward ideas about living with a disability. Women with disabilities, in general, and Black women with physical disabilities, in particular, are rarely seen on Television or cast in movie roles.
Moreover, our voices are not only muted but we are seldom seen in positions of power. If you are a wheelchair user, or if your speech is slurred you are looked upon as a child and not as a woman who is
worthy of respect. We are not seen as smart, or beautiful. Our culture does not see us as full- bodied women with needs and desires.
Other marginalized people demand a certain amount of respect. When the women’s movement started, white women who were on the front line fighting for gender equity. Later, Black and brown women demanded that their voices be heard, and they were welcomed to the table.
Today we see women from all backgrounds on the same page in the struggle, except women with disabilities. Our voices remain muted. And, even more sobering, our voices are sometimes muted within our communities.
The good news is change is on the horizon. Our voices are emerging. Some voices may not be as loud as others; some voices may be garbled due to speech impairments. But remember garbled speech is not equal to garbled thinking.
DWD calls forth Black, Brown, disabled, female voices, who are strong and proud to wear their disability boldly and proudly and who will not be held back by messages that dictate what our lives should look like.
Our voices are unmuted and true, because we emerging voices—divas with disabilities.
By Christal Hopkins